If you think you may be dealing with a manipulative person, ask yourself these questions....
*Have your friends or family members remarked on how you don't seem like yourself since you entered this relationship? Are they looking at you sideways?
*Have your family relationships become filled with tension at the mention of the manipulator's name?
*Are the people who care about you the most getting worried about you?
*Have you severed ties to the familiar stability of the world you have known and placed the manipulator at the center of your universe?
*Are you losing your individuality and strength?
*Do you find yourself doing things you wouldn't ordinarily do?
*Have the goals and dreams that previously defined you all of a sudden been pushed to the back burner?
*Does the manipulator try to isolate you from your friends and family members?
*Are your attitudes changing to more closely mirror the manipulator's rather than who you really are?
*Do you willfully close your eyes to behavior that you know is wrong?
*Do you excuse the manipulator's behavior? Are you constantly defending him/her?
*Does it seem that it's always "all about him/her?"
*Does the manipulator know how to pull your strings? Do you find yourself doing things you really wish you hadn't?
*Does the manipulator try to take over your financial decisions?
*Do you find that you are being controlled or manipulated through half-truths or omissions? Are you slowly finding out that you have been lied to repeatedly?
*Does the manipulator in your life play the victim and blame others for his/her problems?
*Is there just enough weirdness to make you stop and think, but not quite enough to get you to re-evaluate the entire relationship?
*Are the manipulator's apologies shallow?
Here is some information that you should know if you are dealing with a manipulative person....
*Being in a relationship with a manipulative person is a destructive cycle.
*People in healthy relationships have nothing to hide or defend.
*Don't blow off the opinions of your friends and family. They have your best interests in mind. When you cut off your support system, it only helps the manipulator gain dominance over you.
*Compassion is not easily understood or accepted by manipulators. It will only hurt you more in the end.
*Manipulative people are often very insecure. The root of their selfish control is their own damaged self esteem.
*Don't try to point out the above warning signs to the manipulator. This type of person won't recognize it and you will only be wasting your time.
*This control doesn't happen overnight, but it happens subtly over a period of time. Manipulators will invest months or even years in "training" you to accept and carry out their will.
*Severely controlling and manipulative people often have clinical mental disorders. You cannot hope to change or rescue such a person. As much as you may care for them, the best help you can give them is to refuse to be their victim and direct them to professional help - although most of the time they won't admit they need help.
*Manipulators are legends in their own mind, but the truth eventually comes to light.
(If you found this post helpful, you may also want to read The Manipulators Behavior Defined and Are You Dealing With A Manipulator?)